Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Lessons I'm learning: accept the invitation.


Is it just me or does that kind of look like a smiley face? 

So, I have a confession. I think it's pretty widely known that I'm an introvert (hence all the hibernating at home) so I don't have a ton of friends, but it's also because I don't really let anyone be my friend. Chances are if any of you asked me to hang out in real life, I would want to, but I would probably find a way out of it or just brush it off because I think you don't really want to hang out with me. Can anyone else relate to that? Maybe it's just me, but I have this huge loser complex where if someone is nice to me, or invites me somewhere I think they're just being polite. Like I don't want to be bother anyones life or something? I know it's stupid, but it's how I think, and I'm working on it.

I went on a donut date this morning with a girl from my hometown who also lives in Charlotte now. (And temporarily too, totally gets my life!) We started messaging back and forth and it took two times of her saying that we should get together before I actually realized, hey maybe she isn't just trying to be nice to me.

And I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but it was really nice. I think it finally hit me that the reason I don't have any friends and I'm so lonely is because I make myself that way. It was a lesson learned today. Accept the invitation and don't overthink it so much. And then someday maybe I'll move onto "offering the invitation" because I'm really bad at that one too..

Anyways, happy Wednesday guys. (Or late fat Tuesday for me.) 

xx


12 comments:

  1. I TOTALLY AGREE. Also I don't keep in touch much with the friends I do have because I don't like to be the one who reaches out. And I never make the plans myself. I need to be better about it.

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    1. I knew you would get this ;) I am the worst. I never try to imitate plans either because I over think it, and think the other person will hate it or doesn't have the time, or I could think of a million excuses.

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  2. Sooo does this mean we can finally get lunch or coffee sometime ;). Total introvert too I get it. The internet makes me brave haha. Oh and I was totally hoping this was part 2 from yesterday. Im hooked!

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    1. I knew you would get this lol, but YES we really need to!! Soon! And part 2 is coming..probably tomorrow. I'm glad you liked it though because I'm having anxiety sharing all this weird embarrassing stuff lol.

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  3. oh for sure girl. i am the same. every time i meet someone or talk about meeting them, i am convinced they didn't like me or read into every little detail. my husband normally just rolls his eyes at me and calms me down. but it's hard not to think it!

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    1. Oh yeah, right when I left yesterday I started picking apart our conversation lol. I just need to get out of my head so much.

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  4. Aww, I liked this post. There ARE some people (including me) who make those empty-ish statements like, "we should totally get a drink sometime!" but don't really mean it or care if it happens, but YES - there are absolutely times when people say those things and genuinely mean them. Embrace that! We all need friends and company once in a while :)

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    1. Lol I think that's what I always assume everyone is doing. The fake "yeah let's totally get together" thing, because I've done it too, I know how it works lol. But I have to learn the difference maybe, because I'll shut out like real friends too. I don't know, but thanks. I know it's like the shortest post ever, but sometimes it's me life. One little thought at a time..

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  5. I love getting together with new people, especially if they have weekdays free! When Jon and I were on our 1 1/2 year long break, I reconnected with SO MANY people from high school and felt like I really put myself out there! It was actually one of my favorite things about being single again. I'm totally in a rut though. I don't even really talk to many new people anymore so it's rare to find anybody else to hang out with! Glad you got out there though! I'm sure it was probably much needed, especially since you've had a rough transition!

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    1. You sound like you are MUCH more outgoing than me lol. I think I'm just too awkward and weird. That's true though, whenever I was single I'd be super social too. But what I really love is being a homebody lol, so if I could just find a good in-between that'd be perfect lol.

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  6. If you ever come to NY you will have to meet me for a drink or something! And neither of us can do the excuse thing because I also do that haha! Not because I think people don't want to be with me, because I never actually thought of that but maybe I should... but because I just love staying in hahah. I know I'm so boring!

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  7. If you ever come to NY you will have to meet me for a drink or something! And neither of us can do the excuse thing because I also do that haha! Not because I think people don't want to be with me, because I never actually thought of that but maybe I should... but because I just love staying in hahah. I know I'm so boring!

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